I recently read an article that has changed the way I speak to my family. It is brilliant because these words make them feel proud of themself without feeling any criticism. Those words are I love to watch you? (You fill in the blank.) “College athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame. Their overwhelming response: 'I love to watch you play.”
There are so many ways you can use this statement. I love to watch you play soccer, or I love to watch you swim. I love to watch you read or I love to watch you slide down that slide. How about to a spouse, I love to watch you being a great father to our kids or a great mother. Really you can fill it in with anything.
Recently Victoria was in a You’re A Good Man Charlie Brown, and of course I praised her for her portrayal of Lucy Van Pelt. She was amazing and I told her this after every performance. After I read this article, I told her about these words I had read and I looked at her and said I loved watching you on stage. She said wow that really made me feel good. She didn’t have to be the best or to be anything because when you say you love watching them you are giving them so much more than a compliment. You are telling them that you love watching them do what they love to do. They don’t have to be the best because you love watching them do what they love to do at any level.
It is simple but powerful.