Have you ever sat in church on Sunday morning and as you listen to the sermon think, Oh my Gosh ……The minister is reading my mind! Or, this sermon is just for me!!!
Well, last Sunday, Darrel Proffitt, our lead Pastor at COTHA spoke about the importance of BEING there for one another. In Job 2:11, Be there for them. Job 2:12-13 Don’t try to deny their pain, share it with them. When someone is hurting or in need, just be there.
I thought, WOW this is so simple but SO profound! As Ministry Pastor of Care at COTHA, so often when we are with someone who is ill in the hospital, or suffering a loss of a loved one we feel that we have to say something…the very best words available…. We need to make it all better for them, fix the situation. Pray the special and beautiful prayer. But, truly, we don’t. We can’t! We just need to be with them, share in their pain and love them.
C.S. Lewis says people who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. I agree. I believe much of this comes over time, living life and experiencing hurt and pain….. all that comes from experiencing loss.
For myself, I feel God’s love in the presence of others, often in silence. I appreciate the silence. I’m going to try to do this when I’m with others who are hurting and remember that I don’t have to say a single word. Just being there speaks a thousand words.